After buying a copy it has been a friendly reference for finding "your" place in the universe. I couldn't remember its name yesterday so I had to go home and find it at "my" place in the universe.
http://www.amazon.com/Astronomical-Comp ... 0934546606
As for spotting those areas in the sky and trying to explain to your wife where you're looking, I was amazed to see that a green laser pointer, available quite inexpensively, works wonders – even as your wife is looking through her binoculars. They are pretty handy but can be quite a nuisance if used "outside" their purpose. The cats "inside" can find them quite irresistible too.
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